Picking up today with my series on breastfeeding vs. bottle feeding, I’ll share my experiences with my second born – my daughter.
From the beginning, I knew she would have a different routine than my first. I believe I fed her every 2 1/2 hours… She was born at 7 lbs., and her weight gain was good – until around 3 months old.
People think I’m crazy, but I believe there IS a difference in the RX prenatals and the OTC prenatals. When she was around 3 months old, I switched from the RX to the Walmart brand vitamins. Within a week or two I’d say her weight gain slowed very quickly.
Now, I can’t blame it 100%, because today at almost 3 years old, she’s still a TINY girl – only weighing 26 lbs. or so. BUT, I still think that did change things. I noticed the layer of fat in the bottles I’d pump was almost non-existent after changing vitamins. I’m not someone with a high fat diet, so maybe there was something in them that I missed in a cheaper vitamin?
One thing I forgot to mention about Baby #1 was he seemed to have a milk problem. When he would nurse lying down, I noticed milk would come out of his nose! Turns out, that it took us until he was almost 10 months old to realize he had reflux – poor baby!!
All this time his Daddy wanted us to teach him to cry to sleep – but it never worked. He cried and screamed forever and it was heart breaking. Not as heartbreaking as when we discovered he had reflux, and all the time he was crying at bedtime – he was in pain!
Zantac was a part of his life for the next 2 years, despite my gut about it.
Well, with baby #2, she really had more ‘signs’ of reflux, but didn’t ever seem as fussy or a screaming baby like #1. But after each nursing, she’d throw up most of what she’d eaten – projectile vomiting. They told me to feed her less each feeding, that maybe she was getting too much.
Huh??? Last baby I wasn’t feeding enough, and now they’re telling me I’m feeding too much. Needless to say, I was pretty confused and frustrated. I did try shorter feedings with her, but it didn’t help – plus we were back to more frequent nursings again (since she was eating less at each one).
Probably around 3 or 4 months, I noticed she was getting a lot of red, rough patches on her legs – really bad. Okay, I thought, what’s different all of a sudden? That was easy – I had just discovered my latest craving/ satisfaction was honey buns.
I quit eating these every day, and her rash cleared up! I didn’t have 100% knowledge in this area yet, but was just starting to realize how processed foods affected me. I paid attention, and noticed they made me itch too…. But I wasn’t sure at the time what was in them exactly that bothered me.
(More on that with baby #3)
When she was 5 or 6 months old, I became pregnant again, and she began weaning herself – not wanting to nurse anymore. I began cramping and spotting, and that alone was stressful – without even taking into consideration that my ‘baby’ was weaning much earlier than I wanted her to.
I had a new OB that go round, and he was very adament about weaning her immediately. I knew that many moms nursed while pregnant, and was frustrated that most OB’s seem so against it. She was still a baby!
I HAD to really buckle down on it though, cause the bleeding would pick up after nursing her. Sadly though, our baby went to be with the Lord just before reaching 7 weeks gestation age. We were blessed to be able to see it one Thursday, it’s heart beating – before I miscarried on that Saturday.
We grieved, I experienced the hardest thing I could ever imagine. I’ll touch on this subject another time, since I know there are mothers out there going through this too – and needing comfort.
Now I was left with an empty womb, barely a milk supply left, and a baby that refused to even try to nurse – I was devasted.
My only consolation was that maybe her weight gain would improve on formula, but that never happened either. I wish I could say how we figured that one out and fixed it – but she’s still tiny, and I’ve just accepted (long before the drs.) that God designed her to have a tiny, lightweight frame.
My lessons learned with #2? No processed bread foods – these caused eczema in a nursing baby. Reflux in two children now, but since she never seemed fussy about it, she was never on Zantac.
Next Monday, with baby #3 I finally seemed to feel like “I have it!”.
Little Mommy