It’s finally hit me, I’m pregnant, really pregnant, and I’m loving it! God was so wonderful to bestow such a blessing on women – to hold such a precious creation of God’s in our beings, to give it birth, then to love and raise it!!
Sure, pregnancy has it’s ups and downs, but what can compare to knowing there’s a living soul that God created, that He blessed you and your husband with inside of you! Yes, it’s my most wonderful time…. so why all the negativity, scornful looks, and rude comments from others? Can’t they see I’m happy, don’t they know it’s not their business (no more than it is mine to ask why they AREN’T having children – is something wrong with one of them?? No, that’s rude and inconsiderate!)
I’ve heard some mothers lay it out plainly – “Well, which child should I refuse, which one should I send back, which one should I not love?” In essence, these people commenting are telling me that I have a mistake inside of me, it was a wrong decision, I shouldn’t have it – is this not true?
I am amused hearing people say “We’re not in the same time as then, we don’t need children to help on the farm….” or “But God gives us common sense”.
It’s true we’re not in the same time, and not needing lots of children to help on the farm in order to survive, BUT that’s not why we have children in the first place – did people forget about that? We have them because we’re being submissive to the Lord and His will, and His command. He commanded in Genesis to multiply and replenish the Earth – not only to Adam and Eve, but to Noah’s family as they exited the ark.
Sure it was thousands of years ago when He gave that command, but isn’t His Word true and the same yesterday, today, and forever!?!
Our first child received lots of attention, people pleased we had a baby – and so cute at that too! Our second again received hearty congratulations – along with the notion we were done since we had a boy and a girl (perfect, huh?)
Our third began to raise a few eyebrows – especially since he made 3 children, 3 years and under. Not quite as many congratulations…..
So now, number 4 – well, there’s a few congratulations – real, honest ones that is. These mainly from large families that see children as a blessing, not a hinderance or curse.
There’s those that think we’ll for sure be done now – especially if it’s a girl. As they say “Two boys and two girls – that’ll be perfect!” Three might not be THEIR first choice for OUR family size, but if it evens out – it’ll be fine and done with.
And then to be honest, there’s just certain people I dread seeing. You know, the ones that HAVE to put in their two cents, and it’s never congratulations – rather it’s rude, distasteful, nosy comments or questions. They aren’t even shy about it, coming right out with whatever hits their minds! The sad part being is that most of these are ‘Christians’.
I feel I’ve been asked a million times – “Don’t you know what causes that?”, or receive the hanging head shake and “oh-no’s, what are we going to do with you” comments.
I’ve had to turn to the Lord, and He’s shown me to respond with Scripture! Proverbs 3:5-6 says to trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not unto your own understanding. In ALL your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your path.
Hmm…. Let’s look at that verse – Trust in the Lord. So how are people trusting Him when they use birth ‘CONTROL’?? Sounds like they’re not too trusting if they must control it themselves. Yes, trust with ALL your heart.
Okay, next – Lean not unto your own understanding. This is my response to people saying that God gives us wisdom and common sense. Well, He gives us a mind to think, but does that mean that our minds are filled with His wisdom and knowledge? No, our minds and hearts are sinful. On their own, they aren’t going to automatically obey God’s will and callings.
He gives us a mind, just as he gives us a will – we have to choose whether we’ll obey Him with those, or choose to sin. Just as He isn’t going to make us love Him and be saved, He isn’t going to make us obey Him. It’s when we love and trust Him that we obey.
Last – In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths. What did that say? In ALL your ways, not every way but family size! He will direct that according to His will. You can’t allow Him to direct and then be a backseat driver.
Then there’s also the Scripture verse – For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, to give you a hope and a future?
God knows His plans! Who I am to question if He’s right or not? His Word is a promise, and here He says His plans will prosper us, not harm us – and will give us a hope and a future.
Imagine how wonderfully different our nation would be today if Christians had been heeding the Lord in this area – Christians would be our hope, our future – not our minority. I believe we wouldn’t see the despair we see today if Christians filled our land.
But instead, Christians have taken control of their family size, while other religions still flourish – and are now overtaking us.
All through the Old Testament, you read of stories where God closed wombs or He opened them. Do people not believe He does the same thing today? If He doesn’t will for you to have more children, He is more than able to close your womb! That just goes back to lack of trust in Him – sorry to be blunt, but it’s true.
One particular fella, feels he has to comment each time he sees me. Most of the above mentioned points came up, and I confronted them with God’s Word. Finally, what ended it was my telling him that if He could show me in God’s Word where God changed His mind and told husbands and wives NOT to reproduce – then I might consider it.
He was shocked, but in the end knew there was nothing else he could say – because God is faithful, true, and unchanging! It’s not that I’m not scared at times about having many more children – it is a big task – but I trust more in my God.
I fear more my defiant attitude and taking ‘control’ of my body – what HIS consequences and judgement will be. I know this is what He has said, and I choose to submit my life, my body, and my service to His plans for my children and family size – how could I choose otherwise and be faithful to Him?
Yes, I’m glorying in my role of motherhood, and can’t wait to meet and hold this newest life that the Lord has created FOR A PURPOSE! I’m grateful that God has given me a husband that is also willing to submit to the Lord in this area.
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. So yes, God does give us a mind and a choice – but fearing/ reverencing/ acknowledging Him and His will is the beginning of this wisdom.
Be ye not wise in your own eyes!
To end, to my dearest precious baby – I love you with all of my heart and am very grateful that you are a part of me, of your father, of our family – created by God especially for us. He has a plan and a purpose for you, else He would not have created you. I pray that you will know, love, and serve Him – your Creator – all the days of your life.
Little Mommy